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Men convert excess testosterone into a more potent form called DHT by the enzyme 5a reductase. The DHT is highly active on the hair follicle receptors, readily latching to them and restricting blood flow to the hair. This causes the hair to become thin and miniturized creating the "peach fuzz" look. There is apparantly a greater quantity of this enzyme in the scalp of men who are susceptible to male pattern baldness.[1] Women, however, have excess of the enzyme aromatase which converts their testosterone into a form of active estrogen called estradiol. The theory is that after women hit menopause, their levels of natural estrogen lowers letting the testosterone be converted into DHT which makes them more susceptible to losing hair post menopausal. However, that doesn't explain why post andropausal men lose hair when they become older and their testosterone levels die down.[1] Well, that's the theory, so now lets look at each remedy for baldness in turn and determine its effectiveness and availability as of July 2006. Below is a list of each remedy for baldness: Rogaine (Minoxidol) Propecia (Finasteride) ROGAINE Mechanism - unclear. Seems to open potassium availabilty to the hair. Effectiveness - average increase of hair per cm2 was 18.5% after 48 weeks. 1 to 3 months after stopping, hair condition returns to pre-treatment levels. Side-effects - Dizziness has been reported. Local irritation, itching, dryness, and erythema may occur with use of topical minoxidil, most likely caused by the vehicle formulation of alcohol and propylene glycol.[2] Availability - over the counter. Cost - $10 to $15 per bottle (one month). PROPECIA Mechanism - inhibits the 5a reductase enzyme responsible for DHT production. Effectiveness - A third study of 326 men with mild to moderate frontal hair loss found that after 1 year, finasteride treated men had statistically significantly higher hair counts on the frontal scalp. Approximately 50% of treatedmen and 30% of those who took placebo thought the appearance of their hair had improved. Hair regrowth was not reported in older men taking 5 mg finasteride. Side-effects - A decreased libido, erectile dysfunction, or a decreased volume of ejaculate have been reported in less than 2% of patients, which in reality is between 0.5% to 1% when compared with placebo.[2] Availability - was prescription only. Generic version now available. Cost - $69.95 for 3 months NATURAL REMEDIES FOR BALDNESS Most natural remedies for baldness also work by blocking DHT, either by inhibiting the enzyme or blocking the hair follicle receptor, or providing the nutrient for the hair follicle receptor which DHT blocks. There is also an alternative interpretation of the "DHT alone causes hair loss " theory. Some believe that it is too much active estrogen-like substances as well as too much DHT that is to blame for prostate cancer and losing hair, and not enough free testosterone in the body.[3] This sounds contradictory to the allopathic arguement, and concerning estrogen it is. Some naturopaths say that it is all about what blocks the hair follicle receptors. It is these protein receptors which attract nutrients to the hair. DHT and estrogen-like pollutants both block the receptor.[3] Apparently, certain bacteria which thrive on fat, produce estrogen-like substances[4], and there is excess of the aromatase enzyme (which turns testosterone into estrogen) present in fat cells of obese and balding men. Aging, a high fat diet and lack of exercise can create too much estrogen and too little testosterone. Even if testosterone is at normal levels, active estrogen levels can still be way too high.[3] Although this doesn't explain why women with high estrogen levels don't get male pattern baldness. Here is a list of each remedy for baldness and nutrient: Beta Sistosterol (from the herb: Saw Palmetol) Chrysin (from the herb: Passionflower) Vitamin D Vitamin B12 Biotin (vitamin B7) Iron and L-lysine (for women) Folligen (copper peptide) Soy Rooibos tea BETA SISTOSTEROL Mechanism - blocks DHT from the androgen receptors sites found on the hair follicles. Effectiveness - untested. Mixed reviews from people on health forums. Side-effects - None, but side-effects of the herb Saw Palmetol can be male breast enlargement.[2] Availability - over the counter. Cost - 90 Capsules 400mg $7.95. CHRYSIN Mechanism - increases free testosterone by inhibiting the conversion to estrodiol. Effectiveness - shown to be effective at stopping aromatase in the petridish, but not in the body. Not known if it helps with losing hair.[5] Not a proven remedy for baldness. Side-effects - none. Availability - over the counter. Cost - MRM, Chrysin 500, 30 Caps. $14.99. VITAMIN D Mechanism - binds to the many vitamin D receptors in the scalp and hair follicle. Effectiveness - shown to dramatically stimulate hair follicle growth in "nude" mice.[6] Side-effects - none, unless taken over 50 micrograms per day. Availability - over the counter. Cost - 400iu (10 micrograms) 60 capsules $4.99. VITAMIN B12 Mechanism - deficiency causes hair loss.[7] Effectiveness - 40% of Americans are deficient. Not proven to remedy hair loss if taken.[8] Side-effects - None, unless taken over 100 mcg daily. Availability - over the counter. Cost - 1000 mcg, Tablets $7.99. BIOTIN (VITAMIN B7) Mechanism - increases blood flow to the hair follicle.[9] Effectiveness - it can promote hair growth in high doses, although not a proven remedy for baldness. Side-effects - none. Availability - over the counter. Cost - 300mcg tablets $2.99. IRON AND L-LYSINE (for women) Mechanism - deficiencies in both these nutrients have been associated with losing hair in women.[10] Interacts with zinc and copper.[11] Effectiveness - proven effective remedy for baldness for women with losing hair.[10] Side-effects - none unless taken over 250 mg daily (iron). Availability - over the counter. Cost - 100 Tablets $7.29 FOLLIGEN (copper peptide) Mechanism - most effective blocker of the production of both types of 5a reductase enzyme.[12] Effectiveness - low copper and zinc enzyme levels caused hair loss in mice.[13] A topical copper peptide solution created near perfect hair rejuvenation in 6 months in a woman with 10% of her hair at the start.[14] No studies on the remedy for baldness Folligen itself, but some reports of success by women on forums. Side-effects - none. Availability - over the counter. Cost - 2 oz tube, $21.95. 2 months. SOY Mechanism - promotes the production of the good inactive estrogen. Blocks the receptor sites for active estrogen and inhibits 5a reductase.[3] Effectiveness - proven to inhibit the enzyme 5a reductase.[15] Side-effects - none. Availability - over the counter. A food substance, not a remedy for baldness. Cost - ? ROOIBOS TEA Mechanism - unclear. Effectiveness - in a 10% lotion called herbasol, 89% had increased speed of hair growth. 45% saw an increase in hair growth. 78% reported no further hair loss.[2] Side-effects - none. Availability - over the counter. A food substance, not a remedy for baldness except as above. Cost - ? I would personally recommend trying Beta Sistosterol with a powerful multi-vitamin and mineral supplement coupled with the Folligen solution as a good remedy for baldness. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- [1] Have Scientists Accidentally Discovered the Answer to hair loss? http://www.emaxhealth.com/65/6131.html [2] Treatments for hair loss. http://www.hairlosstalk.com/download/sawaya1.pdf [3] Grow Young and Slim http://www.growyoungandslim.com/articles/Mens_Health_102a.pdf [4] Health Loss Education http://www.stuff4beauty.com/page/hairlosseducation.htm [5] Chrysin: Is It An Effective Aromatase Inhibitor? http://www.vrp.com/art/1208.asp [6] Vitamin D3 analogs stimulate hair growth in nude mice. http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=pubmed&dopt=Abstract&list_uids=12399436&query_hl=41 [7] Diet and Nutrition - vitamin B12. http://www.internethealthlibrary.com/DietandNutrition/VitaminB12.htm [8] Do You Need B-12? http://thyroid.about.com/cs/newsinfo/l/blb12anemia.htm?terms=vitamin+B12+and+Tufts+ [9] Biotin and Hair Growth http://www.add-hair.com/Biotin-hair-loss.htm [10] Nutritional factors and hair loss. http://www.blackwell-synergy.com/links/doi/10.1046/j.1365-2230.2002.01076.x/abs/ [11] Interaction of iron, zinc and copper in the body of animals and humans http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=2700243&dopt=Abstract [12] Folligen http://www.folligen.com/ [13] Age-related cochlear hair cell loss is enhanced in mice lacking copper/zinc superoxide dismutase http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=PubMed&list_uids=10466888&dopt=Abstract [14] Have Scientists Accidentally Discovered the Answer to hair loss? http://www.emaxhealth.com/65/6131.html [15] Regulation of Male Sex Hormone Levels by Soy Isoflavones in Rats http://www.leaonline.com/doi/abs/10.1207/S15327914NC422_9;jsessionid=nFFp1FovOhX-OhcS3V?cookieSet=1&journalCode=nc penile enlargement excersizes natural penis enlarement pills erection penis pills size vimax penis enargement product penis enlagement information pnis enlargement pills product best pnis enlargement penis enlarement drug

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Do hormones have anything to do with the ‘stress and distress of those in the eye of this storm? Are these people as out of control as they sometimes seem to be? I am not a doctor and do not know the answer to these questions but I do know as a Life Coach and a woman in her middle years, that there seems to be a great many people in this age category who are seeking and searching for something that will fill a part of them that is missing. They have a great desire for something more in their life, but what that MORE is they don’t know. It is a time of personal reflection and for some breaking out of a mold that has held them for many years. Perhaps you know someone who has quit their executive position or walked out on their 30 year marriage. It doesn’t always make sense, this behaviour, but there is common theme. CHANGE! It seems that many are seeking their destiny, and the meaning of life. They want to know what their purpose is and where they fit into the Grand Scheme. They want to know what this thing called LIFE is all about, and they are seeking their soul, their soul mates and questioning long held beliefs. Spirituality is a common theme, and many search for their connection to something larger than the known world and for answers they go to the Unknown world A metamorphosis is taking place and I see it as our third great struggle of life. The first is being born, the second is adolescence and now this time I will coin, The Emergence of Self. The emergence because it is our true self we are seeking. Not the daughter, son, mother, father, doctor, cook or any other label we have put on ourselves, but OUR true SELF , our true soul, the nature of who we really are. It seems this is a time where anything can happen and does. Sometimes those who are most surprised by what happens next are the seekers themselves. As adolescents we go through the change together, it is expected, so resources are in place to help us deal with it. Our families and teachers are there for us, supporting the change. Now in our mid 40’s- 50’s, it seems we face this change alone. No longer are our buddies, families or teachers there to support us. In fact, it may be that those closest to you don’t understand why you are contemplating the things you are. They may argue that you are making a big mistake and you don’t know what you are doing. Even if this is true, and in many cases it is, there doesn’t seem to be anything to do about it except ride it out. Have you ever wondered at the timing of all this? Why is it so important to KNOW right now? Why upset the apple cart at this stage of your life? Perhaps it is so that our time here is not wasted in the larger sense. Many of us as children had a dream or a goal. I think that this first memory may be the truth of who we really are and why we are here. How many of us have stayed true to who we were? I know that there have been many times in my life that duty as a daughter, a mother, and even a wife have taken precedence over who I wanted to be. So maybe this frustration, this time of wanting is really the only way to help us break the chains of ‘good behaviour’ and allows us the time to search for our lost selves or if you believe in the metaphysical then perhaps we are waking up to what brought us here in the first place, our contract or mission. Have you felt that there is a master plan but you haven’t been let in on the details? The there is a great secret, albeit unknown to you, and almost like a cosmic joke, it is at your expense. Why does this transformation take place? Is there a way of escaping it? I think not. It seems to me a natural progression to a higher state of being if we are lucky. It seems we all go through the process, albeit at slightly different ages and degrees of angst. I believe that this is one “Crisis” that is supposed to happen and rather than describe it as a crisis we could rename it as a transformation. We have all have known a “Dan”, a 50 something guy who finally buys his corvette, or his Harley, leaves his wife or leaves his job- any or all of these are fairly common and classic crisis behaviour. As I said earlier, Women are not immune either. We can all envision the Cougar, a woman in her mid to late 40’s who used to be Suzy Homemaker and is now on the prowl for a 2o something guy to make up for her boring life. On the outside, this behaviour seems selfish and I suppose in some ways it is. But remember, this Emergence is about self and change and change never comes easily. There is always a struggle and in this instance, doing what is opposite in nature of what one has always been done may be one of the catalysts to the next step. These folks are in the midst of a chemical and physical transformation. Alchemy is taking place. When all is said and done, they will be different. They are reaching out for their world to make sense and hopefully when all is said and done, they will have found peace. Peace within themselves and peace with their outside world. We know that these folks want more, but and the sexy car, younger mate is not the whole answer because change on the outside does not equate with change on the inside. I feel that this transformation may actually be harder on us than adolescence. When we are young, we have out parents to support us. We walk en mass with our friends to school and we are all going through stuff together. But mid life, we do that one by ourselves and many times, we wreak havoc on the lives of those we love the most. This change, this metamorphosis, cannot likely be stopped, anymore that you can stop breathing, but for some, it comes with great cost. Our bodies change- we don’t child bear anymore. We have wrinkles and grey hairs sprouting from places they aren’t supposed too. Our skin on our hands begin to thin and become translucent, showing the blue of our veins. We fear we are losing our sexuality, our vitality and our ability to be ‘seen’ as one of the players. We fear this invisibility and we fight to be more than we are, because we want to stay in the game. We also know that we are more than we are showing. We wake to an unknown dream or assignment and strive to fulfill our life’s mission, but the guide book is missing. The map is gone and our hands flail in the wind seeking something solid to grip onto. It’s a turbulent time until one day, you wake up and your life begins to make sense again. You start to realize what is important. Who you are and what you are passionate about. You know what you love and whom you love and you have a sense of the greater picture. You know why you are here. You understand your ties to the past and what you bring to the future. The Emergence of Self will happen whether you plan for it or not. At some point in your life mid life, an amazing discovery of self will take place, and I hope that you complete your transformation all the way until you feel at peace within your heart and the world around you. For those of you who are wondering what signs to look for or if you are currently experiencing your transformation, below you can find a list of common features: Typical features of mid-life include: Experiencing healthy dissatisfaction……..yearning for more…..is this it?? What worked before no longer rocks your world. The changing body becomes your guide. You get used to uncertainty You want to give back You become much more than you thought you were. Your values change significantly You are getting a hefty whiff of you own mortality. The emergence of wisdom Mid-life challenges that Coaching can assist with: • Finding your Passion • Removing FEAR from the Change Process • Learning how to acknowledge and accept others • Learning to Communicate at heart level • Reconnect with your SELF • Leaving Guilt Behind • Trusting your instincts • Creating a vision